There are a few things in life that I don’t like. Tomatoes, cats, shots, and sludge (the mixture between rain and snow) are at the top of that list. Another thing that really bugs me is surface level friendships. I am not a huge fan of the all to familiar greeting, “Hey, how ya doing? I’m doing great, thanks for asking,” and just moving on to the next person I see. I feel like there is something missing every time I leave one of those conversations. There is no depth, no substance, and it leaves me unsatisfied.
For the first couple months on the job, I was surrounded by surface level friendships with my students. I would walk from student to student just saying “hey” and not really getting much more in than a, “how are you doing?” The conversation would dwindle, and I would move on to the next group. Don’t get me wrong, these conversations are still important, and I do cherish them. They are all apart in the relationship building process, but they aren’t what I’m aiming for. I long for something much deeper.
A relationship can’t grow if it just stays at “hey’s and hello’s.” That’s true across the board, whether you are ten or ninety. So naturally, I wanted to take my relationships to the next level. I have developed plenty of surface level friendships and have started to turn the corner with a number of my students, and it’s been an extremely rewarding. Instead of just talking about the vegetable soup they ate for lunch, I have been able to have in-depth conversations. These conversations have consisted of love, religion, life, war, sports, relationships, and Jesus. I’ve been able to ask students tough questions about their faith, and listen when they share with me their doubts about their own walk.
There is something I love about a heart-felt conversation with someone. It really enables you to see and understand them in an entirely new way. There is a deeper bond that happens when you share with someone from the heart, and that is exactly what’s been happening the last month. I have quickly found out when people know you care, they feel comfortable to tell you things they normally wouldn’t tell share. This is precisely what I has been happening with students and I can credit nothing more than those surface level friendships I detest so much
I have promptly come to find that ministry doesn’t happen without relationships, and relationships really don’t start without some kind of surface level friendship. The thing I usually don’t like is slowly becoming the thing I depended on.
If I had one prayer request at the moment, it would be this: that God would continue to allow me to develop relationships with students, and that these relations would with continue to blossom into a heart felt friendship.
Thanks so much for your continued support. Without you, none of these relationships, conversations, or ministry opportunities would have any chance of happening. Please keep my school and students in your prayers, and thanks again for all you do!
Be Blessed,
Michael Yoder